17 HOURS TO VALUE RE-ADJUSTMENT

Yesterday while on daily trawl through my timeline trying to catch up with all that I have missed the 17hrs public twitter dissension caught my eye, after reading and ignoring a couple of tweets I quickly realised it has become a trending topic

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Apparently a guy drove 17 hours to see a girl meeting each other for the first time and after the visit all he got out of the drive was a hug and "thanks for coming" The afore mentioned girl then proceeded not only to expose the whole issue on her Time line but made an active attempt to ridicule the chap. Predictably many others in their age group joined in gleefully chortling on about the silliness and naivety the guy displayed.

What caught my eye was the overwhelming groundswell of opinions and direction it was tilting towards. While romantic or sexual dalliances between teens are often convoluted many times bordering on the ridiculous, after all they are still experimenting and emotional immaturity is still a prominent mainstay, having said that though concerning this specific issue there are some noticeable  sinister strains which is being surreptitiously introduced and strengthened in their consciousness exhibited plainly.

Extrapolating general direction of overwhelming opinions from the tweets and retweets I am indeed dismayed and really scared for the kind of values and self-worth many young ladies have of themselves, seems many have concluded erroneously of course that it is utterly insane and incongruous for a guy to drive 17yrs just to meet a lady without sexual congress.

What premium does a young lady place on her chastity and honour?
A meal at an eatery?
Recharge card?
Quick 30minutes drive as opposed to 17hrs, a drink and some snacks?

If an overwhelming number of young ladies feel this way about themselves how then can we have the audacity to blame men who physically and or sexually abuse females generally?

Social scientists and then society as a whole catch a tiny strain of negative societal pattern and pre-emptively guard against it by proactive steps to arrest it going further, with a deep seated social malaise that has to do with self-perception and worth of this sort, isolation and control is long overdue and sorely needed, one of the most common ways to do this is positive reinforcements, which will be explained subsequently.

Let us assume old dogs cannot be taught new tricks, however  it is incumbent upon each and every one of us to start taking proactive steps in rescuing young female children especially those in their formative years to pre-teens from this vicious circle, like I inferred in previous paragraph positive reinforcement is basically commending, appreciating good and honourable deeds and actions in children, by re in forcing this trait in them they learn and inculcate the belief that doing good and positive things will get them attention and applause as opposed to the opposite. A young girl who has grown up thinking objectification,sex is the right way to get positive reinforcement will grow up to exhibit such any avenue she gets, while her counterpart who has been brought up with the positive reinforcement understands.

We need to start teaching them their true worth, their chastity and honour as females is worth more than even 1700 hours’ drive from a man, they are worth more than a couple of drinks and food.

The right and proper way an honourable man with lofty intentions shows their love, affection and dedication is going the extra length just to be with them. It is neither ridiculous nor funny it is not mind boggling if a man goes to great lengths to see a lady rather it speaks to his devotion and high pedestal he has placed her.

If you ridicule young men many who are emotionally immature themselves anyway and still impressionable for behaving like a gentleman,please don't be surprised if that young man you have ridiculed grows up to be an egotistical and self-centred alpha male who won't even make the effort to treat you like a dog much less a lady in future. Young  ladies including the one in the eye of the storm will do well to remember few years from now when praying and fasting for a husband who is dedicated and will do anything for them that she had one but disgraced him.